Based on a review of pension records:
Wilbur Waite was born in 1837, in Michigan.
By early July of 1860 Wilbur was working as a farm laborer and living with a laborer named Asa Gilbert and his family in Laphamville, Algoma Township, Kent County. (Asa would also enlist in Company F, Third Michigan Infantry.)
Wilbur was still living with the Gilbert family when he married New York native Harriet Elizabeth Smith (b. 1840) on July 1, 1860, at the Gilbert home in Algoma, and they had at least one child: Hannah Maria Elizabeth (b. 1861).
Wilbur was 24 years old and probably living in Algoma with his wife when he enlisted in Company F on May 13, 1861. Wilbur was wounded on May 31, 1862, at Fair Oaks, Virginia, and he died of his wounds on June 11 or 12, in Chesapeake hospital at Fortress Monroe, Virginia. Wilbur was buried on the grounds of the hospital, but eventually reinterred in Hampton National Cemetery: section B grave 4167 (old row 22, grave 20).
In September of 1862 his widow applied for and received a pension (no. 376).
In 1865 Harriet remarried to Charles Gray in Manchester, Washtenaw County. In 1867 a minor child pension application was filed by Hannah’s guardian, one John Robison, in Manchester, Washtenaw County, and approved (no. 115410).